What is the Way of the Koi?

The Way of the Koi is a simple, compassion based approach to holding space for others during their birth journey; this includes pregnancy loss.  It is a mind-set; a philosophy if you will.  It's about tools, not rules.  Through the compassion based principles which are threaded throughout our courses and workshops you will be encouraged to embrace your personal journey without judgement, enter into a journey of self-discovery and learn to meet others where they are without agenda. We use the legend of the Koi to illustrate a self-compassionate, fluid approach to Birth Work.

The legend of the Koi teaches us to never waver in our determination, yet remain fluid. The Koi cannot swim if rigid; she would be unable to navigate the waters as she encounters them. The Koi teaches us to swim past our obstacles in quiet determination. The Koi does not ‘go with the flow’ (only dead fish go with the flow) but it follows its own instincts; up stream. This is an ancient tale of a journey with meaning and purpose; a journey requiring bravery, perseverance and strength of purpose which ultimately leads to transition and transformation.

Thank you Nicola for an inspiring workshopI learnt so much and yet your message is so simple!  I loved the style of your teaching and I am left feeling very excited about incorporating everything I learnt into my practice." Victoria (Doula)

By threading Way of the Koi principles throughout your practice you will find yourself imparting to your clients a quiet and compassionate confidence that empowers them to work in partnership with their care givers and to remain fluid and calm in their journey.

Way of the Koi draws deeply upon the philosophy of Shoshin (初心), a concept in Zen Buddhism meaning "beginner's mind." It refers to having an attitude of openness, eagerness, and lack of preconceptions when studying a subject, even when studying at an advanced level, just as a beginner in that subject would.

Welcome to Way of the Koi


In the beginners mind there are many possibilities;

In the experts mind there are few." - Shynryu Suzuki


Amazing art work credit (Koi Mama Water Birth): Huge thanks to Brittney Pelloquin / www.brittneypelloquin.com for giving her kind permission so generously.